Husband wife argue, fight
and blame each other for their unhappiness and boring life. In some situation
this is a fact that relations are so much screwed up that it can’t be fixed. If
both parties are willing to compromise and want to know the reason of their bad
relationship, here are some tests to check yours actions, attitude and
feelings. You grade yourself and see where you stand.
Do you go for a walk together?
You guys go for walk
(could be gym/bicycle) together, if an answer of this question is “NO” then put
“zero” marks for this test otherwise go for next statement. If “Yes” then do
you talk while walking? If yes go to next otherwise you get 5 marks. If “Yes”
then do you hold each other hand during walk? If “Yes” then you get 10 marks
otherwise you get only 7 marks for this
test.
How much you appreciate?
He brings some stuff; you
say thanks no matter whatever has been brought. If an answer of this question
is “NO” then put “zero” marks for this test otherwise go for next statement. If
“yes” then do you ask price and suggest that he bought expensive? If “NO” go to
next otherwise you get 5 marks. If “NO” then you say you may not need this? If
your reply is “NO” then you get 10 marks otherwise you get only 7 marks for
this test.
How much you love?
Do you say very often that
“I am very lucky” and I loved you? If an answer of this question is “NO” then
put “zero” marks for this test otherwise go for next statement. If “yes” then
do you want to listen that your partner should show same feelings as you? If
“NO” go to next otherwise you get 5 marks. If “NO” then you don’t say anything
but make a poker face? If your reply is “NO” then you get 10 marks otherwise
you get only 7 marks for this test.
Do you take
Breakfast/Dinner Together?
In today’s hectic life,
it’s very tough to cope up with others schedule, especially when both spouses
are working .But end of the day it is necessary for the solid relationship that
they should eat together. I am considering only one meal together; it could be
breakfast or dinner. Are you eating breakfast or dinner together? If an answer
of this question is “NO” then put “zero” marks for this test otherwise go for
next statement. If “yes” then do you argue on the dining table? If “NO” go to
next otherwise you get 5 marks. If “NO” then do you talk about family/work? If
your reply is “NO” then you get 10 marks otherwise you get only 7 marks for
this test.
How often you hug/kiss?
Hug and kisses are
building blocks for a healthy relationship, whether it’s a child / parent or
husband / wife relationship. Do you give a hugs and kisses every day to your
spouse? If an answer of this question is “Yes” then you get 10 marks. If “NO”
then do you give a hugs and kisses at least every week, If an answer of this
question is “NO” then put “zero” marks for this test otherwise you get 5 marks.
Are you Sleeping Together
at the same time?
No matter what is the
situation (tired, extra work etc.) you guys sleep on the same bed at the same
time. If an answer of this question is “NO” then put “zero” marks for this test
otherwise go for next statement. In the bed you guys talk to each other about
your daily life, struggle, ambitions etc. If your reply is “Yes” goes to next
otherwise you get 5 marks. Do you have sex every possible day? If your reply is
“Yes” then you get 10 marks otherwise you get only 7 marks for this test.
Do you complain in the
Society?
How do you represent
yourself in the society that also reflects health of your relationship? If you
complain about your spouse and try to get sympathy from outsider then you have
an “Attention Deficiency Syndrome”. If you don’t complain to outsider then go
to next statement otherwise you get zero marks.You complain about your spouse
to friends, in-laws and parents if “Yes” you get 5 marks otherwise go to next
statement. Do you want to work for his/her problem? If your reply is “Yes” then
you get 10 marks otherwise you get only 5 marks for this test.
Are you blaming to your
near &dear for bad marriage?
Whenever spouse fights
their argument leads them to a point where they curse to that person who was
responsible for their marriage. It’s human nature, nobody gives credit to any
one for successful marriage but we want to blame someone for our failure
whether somebody is responsible for this or not? This person could be one of
them, parents, friends or relative. If your reply is “Yes” then you get zero
marks otherwise you get 10 marks for this test.
Do you go for Vacation
Every Year?
People always complain
about their busy schedule but fact is that they have enough time to waste on
unnecessary events or occasions. Are you one of them who can go to business
tour every week but has no time for family vacation? If your reply is “Yes”
then you get zero marks otherwise you get 10 marks for this test. If you take
your family with you occasionally but don’t spend time with them you get 5
marks.
Do you take a Break?
There is a saying “Flowing
water is always good” but standing water gives bad smell after a certain time.
Same applied for relationship, If we stuck in the daily routine in the life,
after sometime our relationship get stagnate at one place and gradually it
gives the feeling of a boring life .Couples don’t understand a healthy
relationship requires new moments in the life. If you don’t take surprise off
to please your partner then you have to think about to bring some excitement in
your routine life. If your reply is “No” then you get zero marks or if you do
once in a couples of month you get 5 marks otherwise you get 10 marks for this
test.
Do you like talking each
other?
Even though it sounds very
obvious when two people are living under one roof they are talking, still there
could be a communication gap between these two persons. Reason is very obvious
if you talk very limited or to the point then other person may have difficulty
to open him in front of you. You talk only when needed but have a one side
conversation you get 5 marks. If you talk but ended in fight you get zero marks
otherwise you get 10 marks.
Do you miss each other?
How do you feel when your
spouse is out of town, If it’s a freedom for you than your relationship is not
producing any good for you guys? It’s suffocation in the environment due to
others present. If you miss your spouse when he is out for long time (week or
month) but enjoy his absence for day or two, you get 5 marks. If you feel
independence when he is out you get zero marks for this test. If you miss him
for even a single day then you get 10 marks.
What is the Result?
Now you may have checked
yourself where do you stand? If you have scored 100+, you are Soul - mate, If
you have scored 80+, you are good pair still you can improve a little bit, If
you have scored 60+, you need to work on your relationship very seriously, If
you have scored less than 60, you are complete miss match, Think about what do
you really want? If possible get out of this relationship and move on.
By
Kapil Kumar
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