Saturday, 7 November 2015

Why the grass looks greener from the other side?







I think most of you have heard this phrase, but I encountered with  real time experiences to understand this in a very logical manner.

Sometime in the life a strange experience gives us a lifelong lesson. Today, I was waiting with my younger son for his  school bus at the bus stop. Suddenly, I saw a lady was waving her hand towards me to say Hi;


For a second, I could not recognize her, but I waved my hand in the response just for the sake of the courtesy and stand aside at the stop, that lady was still looking at me with full of surprises. When I saw  her again with caution, I was astonished to see that she was none, though one of our neighbors Mrs. Singh.


In the previous occasions, whenever I saw her, I saw her in fancy outfit with full makeup, but at this moment, without nice outfit and makeup, it was hard to recognize her, she was looking very different and ordinary lady.


At other times, whenever I used to see Mrs. Singh, I have had very big envy with her husband that how lucky he is having such a gorgeous wife. I had loved talking with her even though I had no business to get engaged with her.

However, before this incident, the attraction of her beauty was so much daunting that, it was very hard to resist not seeing her with full glance,

Her one glimpse used to give me the satisfaction as the quenching thrust of a person who was desperately searching for a drop of water in the lost desert.

However, Today’s experience destroyed my all fantasy castles of her beauty in a single wave, which I have made so far at the sea shore of my wild imagination.

In other time this would have been a perfect opportunity for me to gossip with her, but at this moment, I was not thrilled at all. I kept my distance with her by shutting my mouth.

Somewhere in the deep ocean of my soft feelings, I have lost my treasure of appreciations for her beauty.She was no sexy or hot any more for me after watching her in a real sense.

I told this incident to my friend Tony, He listened the entire incident very patiently and after that laughed for some time. He said, man,

“You have just figured it out the cruel truth of the beauty”. Beauty is good only when, you see it occasionally and far away.

I could not understand  or my mind was not able to accept the fact that how come someone could be so dull and unattractive in normal life without fancy dress and makeup?

I will tell you one incident which has changed my whole philosophy about beauty, charm and attraction, Tony said.One day he was drinking alone at a bar, there he encountered with a very hot and  sexy girl.

He saw her like a bagger standing in front of the royal palace and expecting somehow a princess will come outside from the palace and will accept him as her lover.

 Suddenly, somehow this miracle happened, maybe that day God was very generous to grant his wish, this hot girl approached to him and showed  the interest to take some drinks with him.

After a couple of drinks, she asked him to drop at her place which he considered as an honor without any hesitation. After dropping at her home, she invited him for a cup of coffee, where they end up doing some smooching and foul play.

 After doing this for quite some time, she suggested to take a join bath, where he got best  sponge bath of his life. Everything was happening like a movie script and finally that moment came, which changed his philosophy about beauty, Tony said.

We were on the bed and I was ready to hit the jackpot, I thought I have never tried with someone in the “doggy style”, I suggested her that, I want to try this, I was surprised that she accepted my offer without any hesitation, Tony said further.

When we were in a right position, I felt a big bad smell from her backside, It was so bad, I could not stand for a second, it seems, she did not clean her potty properly, I was about to puke on the bed, somehow I hold my breath.

I grabbed my clothes and run away from there and never ever looked back. After finishing his story, he took a big sigh and said man,

Outside beauty is just an opening a Pandora’s Box, however, what could be inside this is the real treasure.

If we look in real life, we will see thousands of examples, which will prove more or less about the above statement.

Let us take a very famous phrase that,

“Grass always looks greener from the other side or someone's wife looks more beautiful than our own wife”.

The truth is that, it does not matter how beautiful or gorgeous or pretty is your wife, eventually after some time, you will lose attraction, excitement in her beauty, you would not find any charm in her.It could happen other way around, a wife may find no smartness or attraction in her husband after some time.

You want to know why? When we live with someone (spouse), we have to see all the phases of their life, you will not only see your spouse in a fancy outfit with proper presentation all the time.

There will be many situations that you have to see her face without any makeup in early in the morning, not only that sometime  you have to encounter  with her in dirty, smelly clothes after restroom or kitchen or laundry work. Some time she might have a disgusting face pack on her face or some coloring  stuff on hair though.

You have to see her bad phase of monthly period, encountered with her while she might be taking some nasty burp or maybe some time an ugly disgusting fart.

Same applied for the husband, he might have some very disgusting habit of pocking nose, farting to loud or bad habits of improper eating, smoking, drinking, chewing tobacco or snoring etc.

All these daily events gradually take away charm, excitement and romance from the couples, you would not see any attraction or feel the beauty in your spouse even though he or she may be a superstar in the world.

After sometimes beauty lost its prime place from the couple's minds and heart, gradually, instead of beauty/attraction, care, love and smartness takes their place.

Next time when you see some gorgeous women or spicy hot girl think twice that what could be the reality behind the  beautiful curtains?

Grass is not always greener from the other side.

Note: “Opinions expressed are those of the authors, and are not official statements. Resemblance to any person, incident or place is purely coincidental”. The Author will not be responsible for your deeds.


Does Planets or GemStone create any effects??


I don’t know, how may of you really believe in Gemstones? Recently, I read a blog about gemstones and planets that a right Gemstone can change your fate. The fact is that, I have no idea whether Gem Stones hold any kind of magic or power or have any relation with humans at all?

 As per the blog, the writer claimed that a Gem color works with the combination of planet & chakra.
However, here, you should pay attention to one thing that all the Planets, Chakras and Gems have pretty much common color or seven colors of the light.

Anyway, I have no expertise or knowledge to comment on that, However, I look around in my surrounding and brushed up my basic science to set up some interesting facts about colors and their effects in our life.
These facts support write’s claim up to some extend in a different way.

Let me ask you here, Have you ever thought, why different professions have different colors of uniform? No Idea, never mind, I will try to explain later this. Anyway, After reading that blog, I thought there must be some correlation between the color and human behavior  that why human behave, think and act differently when they wear different colors?

As per scientists, in our solar system planets pretty much look like…
Earth…… Light Blue, Green or Brown, Uranus…. Light Blue, Pluto… light Brown,  Jupiter…. Orange+white band, Saturn…. Pale Yellow, Mars….. Red/Orange, Venus… light yellow, Mercury…. Gray, Sun… Yellow
You may find planets color descriptions little differ in the web site to web sites. Now, the question comes in mind, why I wrote about planets colors here?

Technically, Sun is not a planet, it has been conceived as a Star, all the planets have no illumination at all then why we claim these planets have any color?

Technically, all the planets get the lights from sun and after reflection and refraction from the particular planet, the light color we see, we say this is the planet color.

Now, I come to the second part of the puzzle and later on I will try to complete the puzzle. We have learned so far that from the planets we get the light of these colors Blue, Red, Orange, Green, Yellow, White, Gray.
If we look around and see, in real life, what is the color of a uniform for a certain profession?
You will surprise to see a correlation between the color of the uniform and the personality of a person.
You may have seen that the majority of people in different countries has these standard color uniform e.g. White… Medical/Peace, Red.. Law enforcement/Attraction, Green.. Producer/Farmer, Blue.. Labor/Hands on, Brown.. Manufacturing/force, Black… Sad/Cleaning/Dirty work/lawyer, Gray.. Power/force, Orange..  Alert/thief…. etc....

You may find these uniform color little bit differ here and there depends upon country or region. However, the question comes in mind what is the relevancy of a color with the profession?

What I concluded here is that, If we adopt a profession, which uniform has  the matching color of our favorite/ planet, then we have higher chances of the success. Don’t forget that color should be your favorite color as well, otherwise it will be a mismatch.

It may sound a little strange but, if you look deep down, you may not be so much surprised.
Most of the time we are surrounded by the people those have the uniform as per their profession or as per our profession. Think about this, If you hate white color or your temperament does not support for calmly behavior, then how would you be happy or successful in the  profession of medical or peace core.

Same applied for military or police professions, You have to deal with this color effect in daily life. If you do not agree with me, ask a police/military man, how he feels when has a uniform. Same doctor feels more responsible and cautions when they have their white apron on them.

Psychologically, A specific uniform gives us a particular feeling, and the color of uniform play a vital role in this.

Some people can argue here, if there is no uniform them what will be the impact? For that I will say, without uniform people, either fell to special or worthless to themselves. Uniform creates a uniformity among human and a team spirit. Whether it’s a school, force or place. We follow a certain dress code.
Even a boss who wears a tie or his wife who has a specific dress for doing household work will feel very strange without their proper gear.

Now, I come to the main point, why we like or dislike a specific color?Are there something built in our body system that specific planet has an influence on us, we either like or hate that particular color?

Same philosophy applied for the Gemstone, as per my view, there is nothing hidden in the gemstones, it’s pure psychological impacts of the color in our brain system. When someone wears a gemstone of their favorite color, it creates a positive effect with a sense of happiness, which ultimately leads to higher confidence and improve decision taking power.

Technically, as a human we like or dislike certain colors without any logical reason, there may be some scientific explanation of this reason (I am guessing, the situation of the planets at the birth time of an individual).

When we choose the right profession of our favorite color, I am sure we should have higher chances of success.

Gemstone, plants does not emit or radiate any electromagnetic wave or light directly. Anything, whether it’s light or wave comes from the Sun or the Stars of our galaxy. Planets just reflect or refract sun's energy towards  the earth.

Technically, Planets are bound mutually to the rule of Gravitational forces, which may or may not have an effect on the human brain, scientists do not know yet. Gemstone or planet has no effects on us, it’s our mind who creates confidence, will power, courage  in our system.

Next time, when you wear your uniform or go to work, ask yourself,
Do I like my uniform color or Do I like my profession or do I like my surroundings, if not then why? And the most important thing is what I like?

Your answer is the secret of you happiness and success not a Gemstone or Chakra or Planet or anything.




By 

Kapil Kumar

Note: “Opinions expressed are those of the authors, and are not official statements. Resemblance to any person, incident or place is purely coincidental”. The Author will not be responsible for your deeds.

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